I recently got into a car accident. It’s wasn’t that bad of an accident (I wasn’t hurt and neither was the other driver), but I knew right away that my car was going to be totalled. The front and rear passenger doors and the quarter panel were totally crunched in. My car was older and not worth much. I texted my parents right away and asked for financial help. I felt upset about it because I my image of a 35 year old woman in my position is that she is completely financially independent and doesn’t need to rely on outside help. But the reality is that I am not. I pay all my bills and get the things done that I need to get done, but I don’t have much extra after that.
I was feeling really bad about myself and a little bit uncomfortable about asking my parents. But then I decided I needed to reframe the situation. I am a lucky person to have parents who are willing and able to help me when I need it. I am lucky that the situation was relatively easy to manage and that I ended up with a reliable car that I feel good about. I am happy about the relationship I have with my parents and how their absolute lack of judgement about the situation helped me to feel better about asking for help.
I am planning to fly out and visit them (and my sister) this summer for a week and we decided that the three of us are going to go on a little mini-excursion while I’m there and I am SO excited to travel with them, continue building our relationship, and having fun with people I don’t actually HAVE to like, but I do.